u/Equivalent_Sun7606

i had a 3mm stone stuck in my ureter. i got it removed yesterday (tuesday) completely and the surgeon put in a stent after. it gets removed friday, so i have two days to go. i dont know if i can do it.

the constantly feeling like i need to pee and burning and pressure and nausea is unbearable. i'm also constipated from all the opioids i got in the hospital, as well as about to get my period (which is going to be awful due to endometriosis.)

the string hanging outside my urethra also disappeared and seems to have gone back inside, which means the dr will probably have to dig around in there for it. i'm panicking so bad. please help. i'm 19 and i have never experienced anything like this before.

so a week ago i was in the ER for a kidney stone, it was seen at the bottom of my ureter about to enter the bladder. last night i went to the ER again for excruciating pain and they saw that the stone has not moved at all. and ive also been dealing with a swollen kidney.

the dr offered me two options. do a surgery where he goes up into my urethra with a tube, break up the stone, and remove it, leave a stent for a day or two. or go home and try to pass it. but he seemed to think if it didn't pass already it might not.

my question is, if it didn't pass the first time while being at the very last place, is it even possible to pass? or do i just says eff it and get the surgery?

i don't know if this falls under the line of retroactive jealousy. but i found out he'd been to some strip clubs and got 2 lap dances before he met me. i feel fucking insane and i know he didn't do anything wrong, but i'm just kind of genuinely disgusted by him now. i can't barely look at him. i feel sick about it and i don't know what to do anymore.