I’m irritated by my plus size friend…
A friend of mine is a bit bigger and has been the entire time I’ve known her. I’ve never said anything ever to make herself feel bad about herself, I always try to lift her up and make her feel confident while encouraging healthy behavior (not unless she asks only when she tells me she wants to lose weight).
I see her almost everyday at work and everyday, multiple times a day she will complain about how she’s fat and wishes she were skinny. I don’t say things like, “oh you don’t need to lose weight” because she has told me she’s getting close to 300 lbs. I try and give her simple advice like eat more whole foods and go on walks because she’s genuinely looking for advice. But then like an hour later she’ll eat like cake or something and if we’re going somewhere I’ll say, “why don’t we walk to the place we’re going?” And she say no that’s too far. And it will be like a five minute walk?
I don’t want to be rude but it genuinely starts to make me mad how she complains all the time and doesn’t even try to make an effort to lose any weight. I know it’s none of my business really but she talks to me about it literally every single day. She often asks how am I so skinny, which I’m not super thin I’m currently at an average, healthy weight. She’ll also say things like, “I wish I had your body” and “I’m so fat, I wish I looked like you.” It genuinely is starting to make me uncomfortable because of how often she says things like that.
At first the way she complimented me was nice and honestly I’d thank her and feel good about myself. But now it’s starting to feel weird and I’m a little freaked out with how often she comments on my body. Honestly at this point I get annoyed when she complains about being overweight. I don’t want to be rude because I know it’s difficult to lose weight but with the amount she complains about it I just get mad hearing about it.
Advice is welcome, though I’m not necessarily looking for it. I just needed to get this off my chest because it’s been going on for months now.