Dad isn't getting info, can we bring our scout to an event without RSVP?
Bit of a weird situation.
Stepmom posting on behalf of Dad. He has a girl in Girl Scouts (Brownie). It is a high conflict coparenting situation and Mom refuses to tell Dad any info, not even the troop number or any leaders name. Both parents have joint custody and legal access for information pertaining to the child. We have the child every weekend and figure she must be missing out on weekend scout events as not once in four years has Mom ever asked for time to accommodate events.
Dad has attempted to reach out to the council (San Diego) to get information directly, but because Mom did not list him as a parent, they won't give him information and won't even look at the court custody order, so that has been a dead end.
There is an event coming up we actually got information to for once (Mom shared it wanting to take the girl; due to other obligations that day we couldn't accommodate Mom's full request but offered to take the girl ourselves; Mom then insisted we forget about the whole thing if she couldn't be the one to personally take her). Looks like a small event in someone's backyard, not a large council event. It requests an RSVP but has no information on who to RSVP to (presumably the troop leader we have no info on), but the time and location are there. The scout wants to go. Would it be acceptable for Dad to take her without an RSVP, possibly with snacks as a peace offering, so she can attend and he can meet the leadership and actually make contact with them? Or would that be frowned upon?
Follow up question: I am reading a lot of posts about parents needing to register as volunteers and getting BG checked; is that something Dad should do or even can do without knowing the troop number?
TIA; any other advice is appreciated as well.