u/Environmental-Newt81

I am starting to night wean my already-day-weaned 15 months old this week. I always nursed him to sleep but he also has no problem with sleeping with his dad. When he wakes up at night, should his dad go in and return him to sleep or should I go in and cuddle him, make him realise ‘mom is here but breast is not’? Which way is better? I am so lost and a little anxious about the crying i would eventually have to go through. Help me please.

I have a 15 months old boy, which I started to day wean gradually when he turned 1, because I am working. Now he is completely day weaned and has no problem with it. But the boy who was sleeping through the night most nights until he was 1, now wakes 3-4 times every night, and mostly around 5.30 in the morning. At the same time he started to refuse the second nap, and for three months I thought maybe it was because of nap transition. And he also was refusing my husband to settle him at night wakings, who he is perfectly happy with in daytime and naps since he is the caregiver when I am at work. I had no option other than nursing him to sleep. We are just over the nap transition, he started to be able to stay awake longer, but still the night wakings.. and I am at my limit.. my question is, could night wakings resolve if I night wean? And how should I do it, I am confused. Should my husband do the night wakings? It is a possible option but until when? When will he forget that when mommy comes in that means boobies? And is there a way that i can do it? Dont really want to take both boobs and mummy away, I know it is not recommended. Shortening the nursing time doesn’t work for us, if he is not full asleep he gets mad.
As you can understand my mind is all over the place , so sorry for the long post. Hope to get some reassurance amd ideas from experienced mums.