I am talking to a guy who might not be a true follower of Christ and I need advice
I got asked out by a guy from one of my classes this past Sunday to go see a movie with him. We have talked briefly in class but we didn't know each other too well. I thought it wouldn't hurt to go out with him once to see what happens. I did ask him if he was a christian and I said that dating someone who is of the faith is super important to me. I understand the label "christian" is a vague term but it did help me know that at least I was going out with someone who considered themselves a believer. He told me he was christian and that he grew up religious.
I am 18F and in my first year of college and I have never dated or even been asked out by anyone before. So overall I really don't know what I am doing when it comes to dating and I have kind of been letting him take the lead on things. The movie date went well, we are both pretty quiet and so I am personally glad that it was a movie and not a coffee date or something else. After the movie I wasn't extremely interested but I have heard that it is normal to not feel sparks on the first date, so when he asked me to come to his soccer game on Tuesday I decided to go and I feel like that went really good. We drove there together and we had some time to talk and I realized that we have some similar values. I started really liking him after that. He is a super sweet and genuine guy and even though I inherently didn't know if we meshed I felt like after getting to know him more I am really liking him.
We hung out again yesterday on Thursday. He took me to a place that has a high peak and a view of the entire city. Even though I like him this time it felt super off. He obviously was acting really romantic and I was ok with it. To be clear, nothing happened and I was not going to allow anything to happen, we just kind of held each other ig. I don't know why but it just felt so so wrong. Like I said we didn't even do anything but I had this really icky feeling. I learned that day that he goes to parties and smokes sometimes. He also swears quite a bit. At this point I am not sure that he is a true follower of Christ and I don't really know what to do.
All week I have been praying to God that if he is not the one for me to remove him from my life. After yesterday and feeling extremely icky after merely spending time with him while also learning that he does those things I am thinking it might be my sign to cut things off. I mean, we have talked about Christ a bit, and earlier in the day we talked about our favorite passages and he gave me a couple of verses to read. I want a guy who can lead me spiritually and I don't know if he will do that, but maybe??? Am I judging him too harshly? I really like him, and he likes me. When we were together it felt nice but it just didn't feel right if that makes sense. I am not sure if it is because I am just so nervous going out with someone for the first time and also that it takes me awhile to get close to people. Should I express my concerns with him and continue going out or should I cut things off? I really like him and it makes me really sad to do that and I don't even know how I would go about it. I don't want to hurt him but I care about following the will of the Lord and I do not want to be in an unequally yolked relationship.