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If we look at relationship behavior over time, patterns become visible, the same triggers producing the same reactions across different situations.

Attachment theory suggests these reactions are not random but structured responses, and some approaches like those taught in Personal Development School focus on gradually shifting these responses through repetition and awareness.

If patterns are learned, and learning can be updated, then it raises a question, are relationship outcomes less about compatibility and more about the patterns each person brings into the interaction?