u/Empty-Science-2786

Hello! I’m a reddit lurker and never really post or interact much just listen to the stories on TT or YT, so I apologize if this is a bit confusing or seems very convoluted! I’m 20 F and I moved to Georgia in 2024 when I was 18. I primarily moved her to go to college, but that fell through so I was just working for a while trying to figure everything out.My aunt 53 F Invited myself and my grandmother to move here in 2024. When we got here everything was okay..? But my aunt has OCD and some control issues. Which is something I thought I could just live with. Turns out I’m wrong! I could sit here and go on for days about some of the things that she’s done to me, but as I said that would take days.. so! I’m going to be brief. Last year my grandmother suddenly got cancer and passed away. While this time was stressful for the whole family, but it mostly fell on myself and my aunt to take care of her since we are the only two family members who live in Georgia. It was an extremely rough time, as I was younger and didn’t really pay any bills or have much responsibility a lot of the burden got pushed onto me. I slept downstairs at night and had to stay downstairs during the morning/afternoon to watch my grandma whilst my aunt was at work. It was a very rough time that I do not wish to relive but it happened. After my grandmother passed we all mourned in our own ways but it seems my aunt only feels like there’s only space for HER to mourn and feel. Today I got home from work after a long day (I work as an ABA therapist so dealing with behaviors and tantrums is a lot!!) and my aunt was in her office and said hello and accidentally went into her office without knocking I apologized for that and was just chatting. I said verbatim “I had a long day at work, I’m assuming you did too so” she then snapped at me and said “well I had a long day too! I need a moment leave me alone” so I left I went into the kitchen washed the dishes (that she left in the sink) as well as cleaned out the litter box and grabbed all my stuff to go upstairs. I absentmindedly grabbed my lunch box off the counter and carried it upstairs to go relax. She later yelled from downstairs if I knew where the lunchbox was (she doesn’t even use the lunchbox). I said I had forgotten and accidentally brought it upstairs and went back downstairs to put it where it belongs. Idk why or how but this then turned into a screaming match whereas she was yelling at me and calling me names. Saying something was wrong with me and a bunch of other insane and rude things. I’m a very emotional person and cry very easily especially bc I had already had a long day it had just been a lot. So we were going back and forth and she was getting in my face screaming at me, she then told me I should just move back to MD with my mom and all this other stuff about her not having to mental space to deal with me and how I need to pack up my cat and go. So I said okay and went upstairs to text my mom. The thing is I don’t want to move back to my home state. I want to stay in GA, I have made good friends, have my current dream job, am in a happy relationship so it just feels like- idk..I know so many other people have had to do exactly what i’m doing but until last year i always had my grandma for help or guidance and now i kinda have nobody. Any advice would be appreciated and i’m sorry if this is worded weird or not properly formatted (sorry mods please spare me!)