i am blue, they’re orange.
We’ve known each other for a short time, we bonded in many ways but I said we should take it slow because I felt how he was rushing to show affection and demanding that from me otherwise he said it felt like I didn’t like him. I forced myself to show that more however I am not used to it, because I need time to get to trust and know a person, and have different ways of showing affection. Said he’s in love with me after a few weeks and became very needy asking me to take care of him for an upcoming surgery. I could notice how he is quite insecure and frequently project those fears onto me. I eventually broke things off, mentioned how draining it was for me to keep up with his pace and neediness and the instability of me crossing my boundaries for him. He got really emotional, said he can fix things that he messed up with regarding our connection and we should work together on it. I said no, that we first need some time apart and no talking.
after no contact for a few days and after the surgery where I did message him but he didn’t reply, he reaches out and we end up having a dumb fight due to another of his insecurities. Which exhausted me a lot mentally as I am also not going through the most peaceful time, and pretty much interfered with my healing process during the time spent with him because of how demanding he was with my energy
and affection.
then I finally ended it for good, texted how he rushed everything wasn’t ok and that really pressured me into not being myself and ending things. He became desperate begging me to give him one more chance, he can’t get over me, and to revisit each other after more time has passed, he now knows how I think of things and he will be more aware and considerate next time. It was so stressful I didnt know what to say bcs I was also afraid of what he might to, so I just agreed yes after some time but no contact until then….