Hi All,
Firstly to start off with we are currently not TTC but will be shortly as I'd like to get past my due date and we also have a trip coming up where I selfishly don't want to be pregnant on.
But... we never actually got to announce our TFMR pregnancy. We terminated at 16 weeks but found out a T21 high risk at 11 weeks so of course the fun 12 week announcement went right out the window and we dove into testing, and well, everyone here knows the depths of it all.
For my next pregnancy, I would be waiting till the 20-week mark just for my own mental health ( so far this is the plan but if it changs it changes) but I would like to acknowledge my loss. Only the close people around us knew what was happening at the time, and a few people have been told afterwards, but there is a decent amount of our social circles/family who have no idea we were pregnant, or we had our loss because either I don't trust them to be kind about it or simply we just aren't close enough to know the pure agony and trauma I went through.
How did everyone else do a subtle nod? While I would love to scream at the top of the world about the baby we lost, I'm also very aware that T21 can be a controversial decision. I also don't want to post a future pregnancy announcement like this journey has been all sunshine and rainbows, and it's my first because it's just not.
Thank you!