Using a throwaway account for obvious reasons.
I’m honestly struggling to process this and just need to get it out somewhere.
I was in a relationship last year that ended months ago. We were close, spent a lot of time together, and I genuinely trusted her. We haven’t been in touch for a while, so I thought that chapter was closed.
Recently, her ex contacted me accusing me of forcing myself on her the last time we met. That alone was shocking, but what made it worse is that this is something she knows is my biggest fear. I’ve always been very clear about boundaries and respect, and I could never even imagine doing something like that.
I spoke to him and explained my side, and he seemed to calm down at first. After that, I reached out to her to understand what was going on, since she had shared my number with him. She told me she takes her words back and also told me not to contact her again. I said I only reached out because her ex had contacted me.
Within minutes of that, I received another message from her ex accusing me again. After that, I was blocked and haven’t had any direct communication with either of them.
Since then, I’ve been getting calls and messages from random numbers, some from India (I’m in Australia and that’s where i met this girl a couple of years back in college), including someone pretending to be from crime branch, threatening me and abusing me. I haven’t responded to any of it and have just been saving everything.
What’s really getting to me isn’t even the random people messaging me. It’s the fact that someone I trusted so much could say something like this so easily, especially knowing how serious it is and how much it could affect my life.
I keep replaying everything in my head trying to understand how it went from what I thought was a normal, mutual relationship to this. It feels like I’ve been thrown under the bus completely because she wanted sympathy from her ex. I’m not really sure what I’m looking for here. Maybe just how do you deal with being accused of something you know you didn’t do, how do you stop overthinking and replaying everything, and has anyone been through something similar. I’m trying not to react emotionally or escalate anything, but mentally this is really hard to process.