u/Emotional_Panic8855

So how can we deal with this. My mother in law lives in America. She moved over there and then met her husband. First time she met our daughter she was tired and I think emotional from lag. 2nd time she was great and so happy to see her.

We just got back after being in USA for a week but it got too much. She got a puppy a few weeks before and yes they are hard work but she didn’t really bond with our 13 month old well. She said that our daughter didn’t take to her but as you all know it takes playing and reading a book with her to bond. Which she didn’t. They barely spent any time with us and dropped us off at places. 3/8 days.

It got really tense and we have to go in the car with them to get to places. We can’t afford to hire a car and it’s too complicated.

My daughter was really playful and full of energy. The final straw was when there was a box she was climbing and falling over onto back of head.I politely asked and justified why I moved it. Then her husband moved it back because of the puppy climbing onto the curtains. I absolutely lost it and he said I should not be on my phone and watching her. As you know it takes seconds for a child to climb onto something.

My partner and me were able to talk through our feelings with her, mainly my partner! I told her we didn’t expect her to babysit and the importance of our daughter having grandparents involved even if long distance. As they are Italian.

We just got a bad vibe from them both. It’s difficult when you are staying at someone’s house. Last times we came over we were treated better but this time there was an ugly atmosphere. I understand she has a different life and it must be difficult but we wanted her to have quality time with her son and granddaughter. She has suggested the next time they come visit us will be Christmas 2027 because her husband wants to see London at Christmas. It seems she always has to work around him. Our daughter will have changed by then.
We really want her to be involved and to be able to see her but we find it so difficult in USA as we felt we had a frosty welcome and we also felt bored.

She is fixated on us coming during the summer months but my partner isn’t keen on going in summer and we want to go on a proper vacation not just to America in the sticks for 2 weeks. One week is enough for us so that we don’t fall out again.

I really think the Welsh 5 peaked with the America content! I really think Charley is the drive to it! She really drove the vibe in the content! She’s a great speaker compared to the others!

She has lost so much weight but looks really good too, so much healthier. She can still be glam queen too.

I think with Becki she is lost in her content because let’s face it people loved the authenticity of her food hauls. Cory and Lea have nothing exciting to post because they have a baby and it’s only going to get harder when little A gets older unless he goes to nursery and grandparents help out.

I first starting watching Charly 3 years ago wasn’t keen then she grew on me on the USA trip! I still think she’s great and the best of them! She’s grown up a lot compared to the others. I do think she is the driving force like the Spice girls wasn’t the same when Geri left!

Travelling to States to see in laws. All the mother in law planned was a trip to the zoo and shopping. She was reluctant for us to go downtown but we did.

She got a puppy last month knowing we had booked this trip ages ago and the attention goes on the puppy not her only grandchild who she sees once maybe twice a year. She doesn’t want to spend time with her grandchild let alone look after her for a couple of hours. Yes she’s one and she’s wild but next time we see them she will change again. I feel I am mourning for the fact my daughter won’t have the same relationships I had with my grandparents. It just makes me feel so sad as my dad passed away a couple of years ago. My partners side of the family are in Italy. Then I feel like a bad person for complaining because I am bored. It’s not that I dislike it here but it’s the set up and not even being allowed to choose what foods to buy for her. The cherry on the cake was that my MIL said she should be eating with a spoon properly ! She is learning and doing really well. Sorry for rant it’s just hard and emotionally draining 😢😢😢.

Yes people can say hire a car and go out and about but it’s complicated and expensive for us!

Imagine travelling all the way to USA to see in laws.
They don’t want you going downtown but won’t look after one year old. Unsolicited parenting advice etc etc when you know your one year old better than them.

I want to get Mary Jane baby shoes but in law wants to get sketchers bla bla bla. But don’t understand her feet need measuring! Oh and they bought a puppy so we have to work around that whilst having our baby here! I told them what food our one year old eats! But some of it hasn’t been bought then I get told the easy peelers are too expensive in costco when we are allowed to out the house . My daughter loves mandarins! Sorry for rant but they wonder why we want to go on beach holidays or warmer countries instead 🤣.

Just feeling really sad for my daughter as it’s only my mum and aunties back home 😢.

They also have only 2 things planned in the week and she needs entertainment now including trips out and soft play! Rather than running around the house all week. It’s boring.