Shortly before my diagnosis, my husband and I had decided to try for another baby. We are in our early 40s. Obviously, those plans went out the window when I was diagnosed with IDC this past fall.
I started tamoxifen at the beginning of March and I’m supposed to be on it for 12 months and then my oncologist and surgeon are both supportive of me taking a break to try to conceive. I think this is earlier than some would take a break, but given my age and low risk of recurrence, my docs are comfortable with/suggested the plan.
Since the fall/diagnosis, it seems like everyone I know has been getting pregnant, and I can’t help but feel a certain way about it. Usually, my overall attitude for the last six months has been one of gratitude - that the diagnosis wasn’t worse, that treatment was/is okay, that I am already back to enjoying life as normal (or whatever new normal this is). But with each pregnancy announcement, it hurts a bit. Happy for friends, but growing impatient. I want to give my child a sibling and putting everything on pause has been tough. Especially knowing I’m older.
I’ve heard there’s a babies after BC Facebook group that I’ll look into. But if any in this community have a similar story who went on to grow their family, would love to hear it! Positive stories always help. Thanks for listening ❤️