My bf and i have been together for about 7 months now. For the first 6 months, it was the most beautiful thing ive ever experienced. He’s an amazing man and I knew that he had OCD, but it was mainly contamination based and I knew he had a lot of anxiety and would kind of admit things to me that I felt like most partners would keep to themselves, but I just didn’t think much of it.
This past month has been a living hell. He has been hit with an OCD spike and has been having the most irrational of intrusive thoughts. His intrusive thoughts unfortunately feed into my own insecurities where he’s worried that he’s cheating on me and I hit my breaking point a couple days ago when he admitted/confessed that early in our relationship, he had a “what if” moment about a girl he saw that he found attractive and wondered what it would be like to be with her. Although I understand that this is a natural thing that everyone experiences early in a relationship, I did not need to hear this and all of my patience for his OCD compulsions this past month completely flew out the window. It felt like a slap in the face after everything I’ve helped him with.
He just started medication but it hasn’t kicked in yet and he is seeking a new therapist. I know he’s putting in the work but now he’s obsessed with the fact that i made it clear that he hurt me and he’s spiraling over that now. I don’t know what to do. I really love him but I’m also in so much pain.