Confusing boss
Firstly, I’ll state that I love my job - I’ve been working at the same place for around half a decade.
I enjoy the people I work with and the light hearted banter we have which makes the office fun and the day more enjoyable. My workplace is rather an anomaly in that it’s an office I work in, but a very family oriented run business. I would say in my time I have formed somewhat close but professional connections with my colleagues.
My boss has always been what I would say is a good boss. He is “firm but fair”. He knows when to be serious but lets his guard down and shows his personality with us who work closely with him. He loves to joke around and have a laugh while being professional when required. He is known to say some very borderline tongue and cheek things which we always laugh at because we know they are jokes.
Lately I’ve found myself questioning his behaviour. He is the same boss - still professional, but some of his actions I’ve been trying to understand. He often watches me/looks at me when I’m not looking. I’ll be working at me computer and I can see it in my vision as he walks past. I’ve always written this off as “the boss is making sure I’m working/seeing I’m on task”. More so than that is the physical touch. We have hugged on several occasions in friendly way (I.e birthday or work event goodbye etc). And he will put his hands on my shoulder if he is walking behind to get past me, we can also be silly sometimes like “play pushing” etc.
Lately I just feel like the physical contact has just changed for example - he puts his hand on my lower back/the small of my back to “move past” but it’s like almost for no reason. One day we were leaving work and he was walking out the door behind me and put his hands on my hips as we were walking out, we’d all had a work drink so I just thought I must have been mistaken or it was an accident. That was until it happened again recently he was behind me we were walking out the door to leave and he put his hands on my hips as we walked out the door.
Anyway I’m probably being crazy and overthinking but I just don’t understand if this is normal or if I’m being dramatic…