Husband drank after 2 years sober.
Hi everyone looking for a little advice not really for my husband but for me and how you would handle this. First and foremost I was the one with a big drinking problem mainly a binge drinker for a couple years got either black out or almost black out drunk every weekend Friday - Saturday and sometimes during the week.
It almost ruined my relationship we were not married yet. He would drink not as much as me and he acted like a "normal " drunk person he could have a few beers on the weekend and be fine but he was drinking a lot on Friday's after work and doing dangerous things like driving home pretty hammered sadly. It went down hill pretty fast constantly fighting drunk fighting even though he wasn't as drunk as me he was still under the influence and not making anything better we were both pretty hungover on the weekends for those couple years it was miserable.
we got to the point of just huge terrible fights and took a break from each other for a couple weeks he gave me a ultimatum to quit drinking which I finally did and he ADMITTED to maybe having a slight problem as well so he said he was tired of drinking being sick and didn't like what it was doing to him and wanted to also stop for me and not have it around me.
So fast forward to now we've both been sober straight for 2 years and he came home from work and I knew right away something was off I gave him a kiss and yup sure enough I could smell the beer on his breath he wasn't drunk but had Atleast a couple beers.
We've kind of had this deal now for a while and I feel kind of betrayed but I also know he would probably be able to drink responsibly unlike me but another part of me is mad that he did that and worried about the future if this is going to be a problem I haven't said anything to him yet. I don't know how to feel it just feels wrong to me alcohol ruined my life and he saw it first hand I just don't know I have a lot of mixed feelings especially as a recovering addict. Any idea how I could go about this situation and my feelings towards it? Do I have a right to be upset should I play it out and just see if anything comes of it? any ideas what i should say if I talk to him about it? Anything helps thanks for reading