u/Educational-Tea9261

How do I even start?

Hello! I apologize for any odd formatting, I’m on mobile.

Anyways, I (21f, 320lbs, 5’6) was on the call with my girlfriend earlier and she said she needed to talk to me about something but didn’t want to hurt my feelings. She told me she’s worried about how much I eat out, and that she hates to see me get so upset over my weight, so she wants me to lose weight. The thing is, I’ve been big my whole life. I’ve tried weight loss drugs (they made me very very sick), I’ve tried dieting, I’ve tried counting calories, and all of it either leads to me quitting after a few days or falling into an ED spiral. I genuinely don’t know what to do anymore. I go and buy all this healthy food, and then the next week I’m back to square one.

To make matters worse, I’m about to start an anti-psychotic that causes weight gain, so my psychiatrist also told me I need to lock in or I’m gonna get to 350.

What do I do? How do I start? Any advice, encouragement, or motivation is greatly appreciated.

Oh also for some context: I have a physical disability that makes standing, walking, or any activity that is strenuous on my ankle very very difficult. If I go for a run or a walk I’m stuck in bed the entire next day. Thank you chronic illness.

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u/Educational-Tea9261 — 4 days ago

Does it really look that bad?

If this breaks any rules I am very sorry, I read the rules and I think it’s ok, but if it’s not I’ll take it down asap.

I’ve been wearing my hair in bandanas (which only covers the problem, I’m still pulling at the loose hairs, baby hairs, and short hairs growing in from my undercut), but today I wanted to wear my hair down. Now I’m at work, and I feel like it looks awful. I’m attaching a picture of my hair right now, as well as some photos of my bald spots(first 5 are bald spots and the remaining are my hair rn at work (sorry for the bad lighting))I feel like my hair looks so incredibly thin and just bad. I have had thick hair my whole life, so maybe it’s not as bad as I think it is, but I really need an outside perspective. Does anybody have any suggestions at all on what I can do to make it look better? Or just somebody to tell me if it looks as bad as I think it does?

I’m a broke college kid so I don’t have money for fancy hair toppers or anything, but I also just want my confidence back. I started pulling because I disliked the way my hair looked, and now I just hate it more. I need help, I don’t want to feel like this anymore.

u/Educational-Tea9261 — 4 days ago

How do I hide this? And does it really look that bad?

If this breaks any rules I am very sorry, I read the rules and I think it’s ok, but if it’s not I’ll take it down asap.

I’ve been wearing my hair in bandanas (which only covers the problem, I’m still pulling at the loose hairs, baby hairs, and short hairs growing in from my undercut), but today I wanted to wear my hair down. Now I’m at work, and I feel like it looks awful. I’m attaching a picture of my hair right now, as well as some photos of my bald spots(first 5 are bald spots and the remaining are my hair rn at work)I feel like my hair looks so incredibly thin and just bad. I have had thick hair my whole life, so maybe it’s not as bad as I think it is, but I really need an outside perspective. Does anybody have any suggestions at all on what I can do to make it look better? Or just somebody to tell me if it looks as bad as I think it does?

I’m a broke college kid so I don’t have money for fancy hair toppers or anything, but I also just want my confidence back. I started pulling because I disliked the way my hair looked, and now I just hate it more. I need help, I don’t want to feel like this anymore.

u/Educational-Tea9261 — 4 days ago