u/Ecstatic-Aerie-51

Leaving academia after Master's thesis

One of the hardest parts of my Master’s experience wasn’t the research itself. It was constantly feeling put down by the very person who was supposed to guide me.

I was repeatedly told I was “slow,” made to feel inadequate, and often left feeling like my effort was never enough no matter how much work I did. Over time, that kind of environment starts affecting your confidence more than people realize.

What hurts is that students don’t enter graduate school knowing everything. The whole point is to learn. Guidance is supposed to build people up, not make them question their worth every step of the way.

There’s also something deeply ironic about academia sometimes. Early on, advisors may feel like they are “supporting” students financially through assistantships or projects. But eventually, students become the ones generating results, building systems, writing papers, collecting data, training models, and helping bring in publications, recognition, and funding.

At some point I realized:
I was not just “being supported.”
I was contributing real value.

Despite the constant criticism, I still pushed through:
- long nights debugging and training models
- field data collection
- building AI and geospatial systems from scratch
- writing, rewriting, and defending my work

This experience taught me an important lesson:
Never let someone’s position of authority convince you that you are incapable.

Sometimes people project pressure downward instead of mentoring properly. And sometimes surviving the environment itself becomes a bigger achievement than the degree.

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u/Ecstatic-Aerie-51 — 1 day ago

I recently completed my Master’s in Computer Engineering in the US. My degree was fully funded, I had no major debt, and I got good research experience in applied machine learning, computer vision, and related areas. I also had the chance to travel, meet people, and experience life in the US in a way I’m genuinely grateful for.

That said, I have decided to return to India without applying for OPT.

This was not an easy decision, but it was also not a sudden one. Over time, I realized that the uncertainty around visas, the job market, sponsorship, and the overall stress of trying to build a life around immigration timelines was taking a real toll on me. I know OPT can be a valuable opportunity, and for many people it makes complete sense. But for me personally, I did not want to continue living with constant uncertainty when my long-term goal and emotional support system are in India.

Another major reason is family. I value time with my parents, siblings, relatives, and close friends a lot. Being away from home made me realize that money and career growth matter, but they are not the only things that define a good life. Festivals, family events, normal everyday conversations at home, and the feeling of being around people who know you deeply are things I no longer want to keep postponing indefinitely.

I also understand that returning to India may mean I have to rebuild professionally. Some people may see it as a step back, especially because many of my peers are already working and growing in the Indian job market. But I do not see my US experience as wasted. I gained technical skills, research experience, independence, maturity, and clarity about what kind of life I actually want.

I am not saying this is the right decision for everyone. For many people, staying in the US, using OPT, and pursuing H-1B makes complete sense. But for me, choosing India is not a failure. It is a conscious decision to prioritize family, mental peace, long-term stability, and rebuilding my career in an environment where I feel more grounded.

I know I may have to start lower than expected. I know I may need to prepare for interviews, improve DSA/system design, and prove myself again in the Indian market. But I would rather do that with a clearer mind and my family around me than stay in a system that no longer feels aligned with what I want from life.

So yes, I am returning to India after my MS without OPT. Not because I gave up, but because I chose a different definition of success.

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u/Ecstatic-Aerie-51 — 11 days ago

Hi everyone,

I’m finishing my MS in Computer Engineering in the US this May. It was fully funded, so I’ll be graduating without any debt.

Overall, I’ve had a positive experience here. Through my research work, I had the opportunity to travel quite a bit and gained a lot both academically and personally. I feel satisfied with what I’ve been able to do during my time in the US.

At this point, I’ve decided to move back to India after graduation. A big factor for me is wanting to be closer to family and spend more time with them. Along with that, I prefer having more stability and clarity in the long term, which influenced my decision. I did apply to a number of jobs but didn’t receive responses, and given my plans, I chose not to apply for OPT.

I’ve saved enough to take around 6 months off once I return, which I plan to use to reset and then start the next phase of my career in India.

Curious to hear from others who’ve made a similar transition — how did things work out for you?

Edit: My parents are well off so no financial stress too

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u/Ecstatic-Aerie-51 — 19 days ago