I apologise if this question has perhaps been discussed to the point of nausea, but it's come up again with the Westminster Confession discussion a few days ago.
I think I'm probably "reformed". I am uncomfortable with Marian devotions, with veneration of icons and relics, and with the very idea of theophagy inherent in transubstantiation; and I'm generally accepting of the absence of public prayer for the dead, although it would bring comfort and a kind of closure for the living. And I completely reject (always have) the Bishop of Rome's arrogation of supreme authority. So I'm generally in tune with the spirit of the 16th century Reformation.
But is "reformed" necessarily Calvinist?
In faith I cannot accept (in the strongest possible terms!) any of the five TULIP points. It seems to me also that Calvinism has been on an ever-increasing arc of stridency since Calvin. I could be wrong, of course.
My basic question: the way the term is used, are all reformed Christians "Reformed" (as "Dutch", "Presbyterian", etc.)? Does the capitalisation matter? What do you rhink?
Edit: rephrased question in last paragraph.