u/East_Relation1696

The whole thing turned out much better than I had built it up to be in my head. I woke up early yesterday and talked to my manager before the shift. I just told him that I was grateful they had chosen me to work with them, but that I had received another offer that was more suitable for where I want to get to in my career. He didn't make it awkward or anything; he basically said, "Okay, no problem, you'll need to give two weeks' notice," and that was that.

Honestly, I had expected a lot more tension, so that was the first thing that really relieved me.

When I got to work, I told one of my coworkers before anyone else. He smiled right away, congratulated me, and shook my hand. After that, I let the rest of the team know, and they were all very supportive. No one acted weird or upset. One person even said that this was probably a good step, leaving while I still could.

A few of them also said they could be references for me when I asked. They're good people, and that makes it a bit bittersweet that I won't be staying with them longer.

So yeah, the part I was nervous about is over now. Ready for whatever comes next.

Hey everyone:

I wanted to get the opinion of people who are working and have experience, because honestly I keep going back and changing my mind on this.

I work in accounting, and recently a recruiter reached out to me about a senior director role at a large, well-known company with a good reputation.

The base salary would be about 95k higher, and with quarterly bonuses the total increase would come to around 120k. I'm currently making 90k, with smaller bonuses from time to time.

I'm 41 years old and have a family of five. I'm heavily involved in my kids' activities and weekend sports, so that's the part that's making me hesitate. On paper, this is an excellent opportunity, and honestly my current company won't be able to come close to that number in the near future.

The commute would be about 70 minutes each way by train. In theory I could drive, but the train seems like the less stressful option, and I might be able to get through some emails or reading on the way there and back.

I'd really appreciate hearing how others might think about this, especially anyone who has made a similar move before.

Thanks in advance!