Maybe I’m being overly sensitive - and in that case please just tell me as it is.
Background: when we started IVF I was 34, and my husband 48. My amh was measured low - 0,94 ng/mL / 6,7 pmol/L.
We did three rounders of IVF - first fertilized regularly, second failed completely and third fertilized through icsi.
First round I had 7 eggs = 6 mature eggs, only 3 fertilized - all made it to blast on day 6 but my clinic only decided to freeze one - a 4AA embryo.
Third round I had 6 eggs = 5 mature eggs, all 5 fertilized - 2 transferred on day 2, the last 3 all made it to blast on day 6 and yet again they only froze 1 - a 4BB embryo.
My day 2 transfer resulted in a pregnancy - hcg 65 - 200 - 2890 .. so it looked okay, however not like a twin pregnancy.
At my first scan week 7+4 we saw a heartbeat, however a fetus that only measured 5mm (so week 6+4) - a week after at my second scan then the heartbeat was gone. So I ended up with a missed miscarriage and had to take a pill, and abort it at home.
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At no point in all of this was my husbands sperm tested for DNA fragmentation, and that worries me.
The slow development as i understand it can be because of that - so now I fear having the other two embryos transferred, because I fear having to go through yet another slow developing pregnancy.
Am I just being paranoid here? Are we most likely just unlucky and I am extra aware because I have low AMH and therefore the road just seems that much longer? Or am I in my right to demand more testing of my husband.
I know a lot of clinics say it’s not necessary to look into more until you have gone through at least three miscarriages, but even the thought of that make me devastated.