u/Dull_Ebb325

Hi,

Just curious because I'm not sure about social norms here. We (both women in our 30s) matched on Bumble and grabbed coffee yesterday. We enjoyed it, but neither of us really felt the chemistry. Even leading up to the date, we only exchanged like one text a day, and the date itself also naturally fizzled out after about an hour. That's all totally fine. She was very lovely and I hope she'll find what she's looking for.

However, we neither explicitly got closure, nor did we agree to give it another shot. I just walked her back to her car then we said goodbye and went our separate ways. She hasn't texted me since, and I'm wondering if I should send her a quick text thanking her for the date and saying that I'm not feeling it - or if it ended so organically that we both can just assume that was it. What's more polite?

We've known each other for 2 years but feelings have just started to develop. We're both women and both neurodivergent.

Yesterday, we were chatting until midnight, and she shared a bit about her struggles to name her emotions and how she feels inspired that I already have the words to name things like anxiety or meltdowns.

That's when I got a bit too comfortable and went on to basically trauma dump.

She was super nice about it, BUT I'm really worried I made her uncomfortable, and I am also embarrassed af.