I’ve been reflecting a lot on the idea of destiny versus personal choice. I recently came across a teaching that resonated with me: that if something is truly meant for us, we don’t have to "beg" or make deals for it and if it isn’t, trying to force it is just a struggle against the flow of our own life.
I have experienced a connection that I can only describe as a "soul-bond." For various reasons, that chapter is currently in silence. The standard advice I get is to "move on" or "find someone else," but my heart completely denies that path. To me, being with another person feels like a betrayal of the truth I still hold.
I want to pivot my energy entirely. I’m planning to: Focus on my personal stability: I’m working toward a specific professional goal that will allow me to be completely independent. Build a solo legacy: I intend to adopt a child and raise them on my own, teaching them the values of deep empathy and emotional responsibility that seem so rare today. Spiritual Devotion: I want to dedicate my life’s work as an offering to the Divine/The Universe, rather than a traditional partnership. I’m struggling with the feeling of "guilt" not toward my past connection, but toward the Universe. I want to communicate that I’m not rejecting the "plan" for my life, but rather that I feel I’ve already given my capacity for that kind of partnership to one soul, and I can’t offer it again.
Is it "wrong" or extreme to choose a solitary life dedicated to service and parenting ? Or is this a valid spiritual path (like a modern-day ascetic or devotee) where I can honor a past love while still living a full, independent life?
I’d love to hear from anyone who has chosen "meaning" and "purpose" over the pressure to find a "replacement" partner.