I was able to go on a working dinner tonight with some absolutely amazing engineers converging for a meeting.
At some point, I mentioned being a caregiver for my LO. One guy immediately responds with a series of questions. He is "early stage" and alone. I was able to give him a quick rundown of IMMEDIATE things to do, and we exchanged contacts for later "briefings:.
BUT, this brought out another example of the "Gen-X" challenges being faced by their "Boomer" parents. How do you deal with this transition?
I was able to give a quick priority 1 tasks, but it reminded me again of the "CG Purgatory" stage that many of us are in.
PLEASE help the random person, or random coworker who are just entering this nightmare. It is not only a kind thing to do, but an "angelic" thing to do.
I was able, at this moment, to quickly lay out the priorities... Get an eldercare attorney. DURABLE General PoT AND a Durable Medical Power of Attorney, ect....... I was able to tell this person "Find an eldercare attorney NOW."
I was also able to tell them a few things to expect. The "stairstep" progression. The obsessions and even the delusions top come.
As said a thousand times before, we are a club no one asked to join. Please remember that as you are going through, or have gone through this horrible journey, PLEASE be candid with those that are entering the journey.
In this case, I made it clear that consulting an eldercare attorney for DURABLE PoT for both general and medical was priority #1 while they had "legal capacity", and general information on what to expect.
We, as CG's who are living the hell, owe it to others entering this club we did not ask to b3e members of.
Please take care of those just entering this world.