I AM BEING STALKED BY MY ROOMMATE IN THE ROOM ABOVE ME !
I am being harrassed, stalked and monitored by a flatmate that occupies the room above me. I live in a houseshare with 4 rooms all occupied. From the day i moved in this one guy has been fixating on me and following me around the house. He is now waking up at the exact same time as me.
Muting his tv and sitting to listen to anything going on in my room. When i come from work and
enter my room to get changed he sits there in silence listening. When o come out of the shower again he muted his tv to listen to me getting changed. He has now recently started sleeping at the foot end of his bed which would place his head directly above mine when sleeping. Since this has started i have began hearing creeping and creeping movements well into the night, whenever he knows im there.
What's happened before!
When i moved in i saw this guy as i was unpacking in my room. He walked past to look. Then when i went downstairs to unpack my kitchen stuff the guy came again. Then when i went to the garden to smoke he came again. This was all in the space of two hrs. After that everytime he heard my leave my room or my door open and close he would come down. This went on for almost three months. On the few occasions i was in the garden he tried to make small conversation. I responded politely. But noticed that i wasnt seeing any other flatmate but him. From about the 2nd month i got suspicious.
One day i tested to see if my observations were true. I had just got back from work and came home and rolled up a cigarette. As soon as he heard me get up ready to go downstairs he opened his door and ran down before me. So i decided to wait in my room until he was finished. He was down there for about 15 mins and during this time he made coffee and went to smoke assuming i would come down but I didnt. So when he was done and came upstairs i Listen to hear him go in his room and close the door, the i came out and went downstairs into the garden to smoke alone. I had been in the garden for about 80 seconds when i realised that my drink was empty. So i went into the kitchen to refill it. When i went into the kitchen in that short space of time HE WAS STANDING THERE ROLLING UP ANOTHER CIGARETTE getting ready to meet me outside. I was shocked as i had literally just heard him go into his room which is all the way at the top of the house on the 3rd floor. So he must have ran down as soon as he heard me come out my room. And was standing there with a look on his face like “ ok you got me” with a smirk. I was immediately creeped out and left the house all together to go for a walk. It was at this moment i realised that i was being followed.
After that i started to keep my eye on him and avoid him. I started to feel uncomfortable being in my room with him just above me so i started to hang out in the Living room downstairs that leads to the garden. On the first day i did this. I stayed downstairs to 11pm. By 6.45 am the next morning i had work. So i woke up got ready. When he heard me get ready he got up ( it was his day off work) and by the time i was leaving he was just sitting in the living room in the EXACT spot that i was in a few hours before rolling up a cigarette staring at me. Ignore him and left. After that Everytime i was in the living room he would come down and hover quietly doing meanless tasks in the kitchen. Or go to the front of the house to smoke just at the exact time i was down there. One morning i woke up and went down to the living room. And with 3 mins of me being there he burst open the door and walked through to the garden. So i started to avoid him. At this point i had seen the other house mates once or twice and this guy over 70 times. I had been there about 3 months and it was getting worse. Christmas holiday came along so he was home during this time ( he doesnt leave the house only for work).
One morning i woke up about 9:30 am and as soon as i moved i heard a loud jolt and lots of sudden movement coming from his room. He jumped up went into the bathroom washed his face, went down for coffee and a smoke then came back and sat in his room in total silence. By this time i am still foggy eyed in bed but can hear all of this going on around me. This went on for the next few days. I started to notice this and so would try to get up really quietly. But no matter how quiet i was the same thing would happen. I would open my eyes make a small movement then suddenly he would jump up. I realised that when he heard me get up, even if he was fast asleep he would jump up and try to act like he was awake before me. But it’s obvious he wasnt . This was Christmas week. So the following week of new years i was home again. And again the same thing was happening i get up he gets up. On new years eve this happened again but before it did quietly put trousers and coat on ready to leave. When he heard me moving around my room he got up and started moving to. So i quickly went downstairs and opened the door to leave, but i remembered i needed to use the toilet so closed the front door and went into the toilet. As soon as he heard the front door close he ran down thinking i was outside the house but i was in the toilet and could hear everything. He ran and opened the door to see where i went but when he heard me flush the toilet he got surprised and quickly ran upstairs. The VERY NEXT DAY the exact same thing happened. Woke up. He heard me, then he started to get up and move around his room. Then i put my clothes on ready to go outside. I went downstairs went to use the toilet before i left and while in the toilet the guy comes running down after me and went into the kitchen. As i was in the toilet again i could hear this guy following me around the house. So i immediately went into the kitchen to confront him. I was saying “ ARE YOU TELLING ME THIS AINT STALKING” ! He reply what are you talking about. I told him that i am tired of him following me into every room i got to. He said i was paranoid, and told me to shut up. Told me “ this aint west london” ( he previously asked where i was from on my first day) and then told me to shut up. I told him that i was going to speak to the landlord about it because i am not going to pay rent money to be harrassed. At this point he started to call the landlord himslef and put him on loud speaker. When the landlord answered he told the landlord that “ the new guy was causing trouble”. I could hear the landlord so i started to speak over him amd explained that i was being followed around the house by this random guy and that it hadn’t stopped and was getting worse. After that i left the house with the guy shouting at me behind me. When i left i texted the landlord the situation and later spoke to him to explain. The landlord was understanding and listened. And i noticed after that day he stopped following me directly out my room when he hears me get up and go downstairs. And mostly stays in his room.
But now he sits in total silence in the room above listening to any move i make ,and making a move after or getting up right after. His room is dead silent so if i dropped a feather on the rug in my room he would hear it and react to the noise. Ive had enough. I cant stay in that room for any duration of time throughout the day or evenings. Ive started to leave early and come back really late. He doesnt leave the house and will stay in the house for 4 days straight every weekend without leaving. When EVER i come in the house or enter my room he will mute his tv and sit in total silence. And start creeping around above me. We are in totally different rooms on total diffrent floors. But has began to totally FIXATE on myself and what im doing in my room. It has given me anxiety and i cant relax in the room at ANY time. He will not stop watching /following me until he knows im asleep then he will turn his tv off. And the moment i open my eyes in the morning he starts to fixate on me and my room again. Now i just mute my tv too to keep and eye on him. And when i observe him i realise that he has based his whole day and actions around fixating on me. As i type this he has got up at 7.45am the EXACT same time i woke up this morning and has muted his tv and is above me listening to me type. He has been up there all morning randomly turning on the tv for 10 mins at a time when he thinks im watching him. This whole hasnt stopped for one day
I have since made an online police report. The officer called me back. I have the guys name from his letters that are sent to the house and his phone number from the WhatsApp group. So i sent these to the police officer with the full police report. About a week later an officer called me back and asked about the situation. And said that he can come to the house to speak to him. Then he didnt come at all and then a week later randomly turned up while i was sleeping. Nobody answered so he called me back an hour later to let me know. But since then he hasnt returned. But i told my landlord about the police report ( even though the officer called him also and emailed him) i saw the landlord 3 days ago and he seemed unbothered.
UPDATE !!!
This week the room mate on my floor moved out. So there are only three of us left. Me, the creep and a polish guy. The polish guy comes once and month and stays for approximately 4-5 days then leaves again for another month. So i will essentially be home ALONE WITH THIS GUY for another month or untill someone else moves in. This of course made me freak the fuck out so i called the landlord and let him know ive had enough. He says he “ understands but there is nothing he can do”. He says he cant kick him out because its against the law. And that i need to just keep telling the police. I told him the guy is also smoking in the house aswell as harassing me, be he said theres nothing he can do.
I am currently typing this in silence in my room, while he sits silently above me. Every 4-5 mins he turns his tv volume on and off to listen to me in my room. Ive had enough…