Hello everyone!
So I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 6 years now and I’ve started thinking that maybe we need to break up. This has been on my mind for months now, but I’ve thought that maybe we needed to break up in the past but pushed through and ignored it.
All of our fights for the last 6 years are about one of these few things: money, his lack of hobbies and a life, and him just allways agreeing with whatever I say no matter what.
It is no diffrent for this fight, it’s about how his life seems to revolve solely around me, he does nothing on his own except work and play video games with the friends he complains about to me. He then made it about money, saying he can’t change how he is when he has no money to do things with. He’s used this argument for the last 6 years.
Now, this lead to each of us saying a few hurtful things and ultimately I told him that maybe we needed to break up or at least take a break.
He didn’t like this and told me that he doesn’t want that and will do anything g to fix it. (When a mutual trusted friend asked him if he’d take a self help class he told them that if it was the last resort yes but only if I also take it because he feels that he isn’t the problem person in our relationship).
I also told him that since I got off a long term medication that my body and mind have been changing. I feel like a different person now, he told me that he knows I’m not no matter what I say.
After he dismissed my words a bit more, I told him that I’m not sure if I love him for him or because of the long term history we have. He told me that he will show me that I love him and that he knows I love him because of how I look at him…
Now currently, we are on a break, we aren’t talking unless I initiate it. I find myself wanting to text him to make sure he’s okay, I might be reconsidering my love but I do care about him. Knowing that he’s miserable hurts my heart but not enough to make me certain that we’re ment to be together….
I just feel like an asshole because I spent 6 years with this guy and I know he just bought me an engagement ring, I feel like maybe I’m being dramatic and I’m the wrong for wanting a breakup after such a long time with him.
Please give your opinion, this is my first and only relationship.