23M- Help || very underconfident because of my insecurities
23M – 5’4”
Rant/Help
i feel very underconfident because of my insecurities, i have been single since birth, i don’t have genuine good friends, and i have never been consistent with the gym. i started going last year but because of my educational and career choices i have ended up becoming a very non‑social person. meanwhile a lot of my peers from college and school have already started earning well for their families.
style is another weak point for me, i mostly wear formals at the office, but outside of work i barely put effort into how i look. i know i fail at styling, and with no social life, average physique, and poor social skills, it feels almost impossible to make new friends. i want to learn new things and go to the gym regularly, but my professional exams keep forcing me to take breaks.
i am not from a big city, i live in a suburb. girls my age either want someone rich or socially presentable, suburb girls prefer guys from the city, and city girls ghost me once they hear my location. the only friends i still have are from school. seeing people join run clubs or social groups makes me realize how far behind i am in every aspect—physique, social skills, and style.
i don’t know why but it feels like everyone else is great at things i lack, i don’t follow sports, and the only music i connect with is indian—hindi, punjabi, gujarati, marathi. it’s not that i don’t understand english music, i just don’t enjoy it. but i feel like that makes it harder to connect socially, since most people (especially girls) are into western or international artists even if it is for social interest i can’t fake it.
how do i fix this