u/Dry-Aioli-3776

hello, i’m f(20) and soon to be 21. back in january 2026 i was asked if id like to live in with my boyfriend m(23) and his family. his parents are older and bought him a house to have when they pass on. we planned and made sure i was sure i wanted to move for a few weeks and by the end of the month i had brought it up to my mother. she immediately said no and didn’t let me really explain much. and for what i did explain it wasn’t exactly fully the truth. i can’t talk to my mother really and so there’s no use in keeping the argument going. it’s been about a few months now and i always feel as though i regret not just leaving home on my own without any permission. i have this stupid fear of any consequences or something happening once i’m gone. like my mom might call the cops to their home, or come causing problems or i dunno just anything could happen really. i’ve been planning on just secretly leaving one day. taking my cat and leaving all my belongings aside from important papers, some clothes, etc. am i making a dumb decision?? she has to forgive me one day. i’m an adult i technically have the rights? i don’t know. i guess the point of me making this post is to get a few opinions and ideas on the situation and if what i should do. thanks reddit