I was in an abusive relationship a few years ago where she used to hit me, talk down on me, and constantly compare me to her boy besties. My current girlfriend is completely opposite to her character. She proposed to me and I accepted.
She asked me each and every detail about my past relationship, like how physical we were, etc. But when I asked her about it, she lied at first and told me the truth only after we got into the relationship. I don’t care about how physical things were, but starting a relationship with a lie is a hard pill for me to swallow.
She has a huge following and more guy friends than girls. I have had my own insecurities, but I never restricted or interfered in her personal life. There is a guy she had a crush on a few years ago, and he had a crush on her too. Recently, he has been passing hints. My girlfriend deleted the chats with him and told me that he was talking inappropriately. I asked her not to talk to him anymore, but she kept starting conversations with him again. He has been making comments like “you must be looking sexy in a mangalsutra” and things about the first night. I didn’t take it well, but in the end, I forgave her.
But honestly, I have lost interest in this relationship. She is very into me, and she is a sweetheart. My story might not make it seem like that, but she is a wonderful person. If I ask her to do something, she will do it. Still, I’ve realized that we are very different people. I am athletic, I like treks, and she doesn’t. I don’t want to marry until I’m at least 30, but she wants to get married now.
To be honest, I want to break up, but she is not going to take it well. We have been in a relationship for the last 3 years, and this is really affecting me. I feel depressed and confused about what to do.