u/Dizzy-Share1509

This is kind of a long one. I am 17f and i am sick. Not like bedridden sick, i just have a cold or bronchitis or something. For context, my mom has mono and bronchitis at the moment. She went into the er on 2 separate nights and was diagnosed one after the other. I was supposed to go with her to get tested the second time, but i passed out on my bed when i got home from hanging out with my friends. I feel its worth mentioning i did have my shoes on so i really did plan to go with but my fatigue was really bad.

Well now she refuses to take me into the er or urgent care. She says i should have come with when i had the chance, but that i was obviously avoiding it?? She keeps trying to give me medical advice and like diagnose me and try to make me take care of myself accordingly, but i dont want her advice. She used to be an ma (medical assistant) so she knows a little about the medical field. After 4 days of me asking to go to the doctor and her giving me unsolicited advice and refusing to take me, I told her i want to see a doctor for a reason, and i said specifically not to be disrespectful, that a doctor has a higher degree than she has, and i want to hear a professional opinion because i dont think i have what she says i have, and she keeps saying i can just go back to normal once i feel better but i need to know i wont get my boyfriend or friends sick if i decide to go out.

For now im at home. After this conversation she says i was manipulating her (referring to when i asked why she went to the doctro since she should know what she has since shes "basically a test away from being a doctor") and that i need to stop treating her the way i am, almost seeming concerned for me. I hated it. She always does this, making me feel guilty about wanting to go to the doctor and telling me i dont appreciate all the effort of her planning the appointment since i never go (i missed one appointment because of a bus incident which made me 20 minutes late)

i dont know what to do with her anymore but im probably gonna have to move out soon anyways because she keeps saying SHES walking on eggshells around ME and doesnt want to live like this anymore according to her. And apparently i have to sign the lease when im 18 or leave and id rather not be responsible for anything if my mom ever got evicted again.

Advice is welcome, i dont really know what to do at this point. I already sort of have a plan to get out i just dont know what on earth im gonna say to her, if im gonna go no contact or low contact or just like go off on her, i dont know really but its been like this for years with occcasional physical abuse and i am tired of it. To anyone who read this far thank you. I will delete this soon but ill read any responses.

So I have no car, no job, and no family members in the state. I am about to turn 18 and me, my parent, and our other family members live in a small apartment. My parent has told me that when i turn 18 i am legally required by our lease to sign the lease or move out. The only problem is that since i was little my parent has been irresponsible with money, and has had several evictions on their record. I want to move out in the next year whether i rent a room or something else, and i cant rent an apartment for years if i have an eviction on my record, so i really dont want to risk my housing in the future. I wouldn't be thinking about it this way if i really trusted that she could make the rent on her own, but shes getting less hours than she used to and i dont have the money to pay the rest if she cant, and the landlord could come after me for rent. My decision is pretty much final though advice is welcome and appreciated. I read online that where i live i would likely have only 3 days to get all my stuff out of the apartment and give our landlord a notice. I plan on calling homeless shelters near me to see their availability. I have plans on how to get my documents and a couple hundred saved up. I want to leave at a time when she cant harass me about it but she hasnt been working much lately. Other than that im not sure what to do except wait and try to like figure out what im bringing with me.