I'm coming to Reddit because I can't tell anyone in my social or private life.
I ( aged 17, female) just found out my mum ( 41, female ) has been cheating on my stepdad ( 46, male). I've had speculations for a few weeks, but just confimed it when I finally had the courage to go through her phone and saw the text messages (very traumatising).
im not really sure how to go about this, honestly in quite selfish because I'm only thinking about how this will affect me. for exmaple i have A levels in 2 weeks, so I really don't want to be distracted right now, after all, I need the grades to get into university, which is really important to me. After I'm going travelling for 2 months. I have neither the time nor the energy to deal with whatever might happen if I do confront my mum.
But I do know I have to get this cleared up someday, a tight feeling in my chest is already pulling on me. I want to ask my mum so many questions, but they have to be the right ones, as I'm not really good at confrontation.
( also the guy is like really chopped and he doesn't seem rich at all, I'm honestly confused, not glazing my cheating mum but she's way out of his league)
Please, can anyone recommend what I should do in the future? This might break my family apart, i also have a younger brother, but I suppose I'll be in university this year anyway, so I worry about what might happen to my little brother, as he's only 6.