Confusion - Praying and taking suitable action
Im 24M here, graduated about 2 years ago and currently working at a startup,
I never thought about all this but recently this thought has been bothering me, now I do overthink things most of the time, but im feeling confused as in lets say do you like just pray about something in front of Allah and then just wait and do nothing yourself, or like you yourself take initiative as well, lets suppose finding someone suitable for you, because for me, choosing the right person is one of THE MOST important thing, I've been praying to Allah and asking him about what qualities I'd like to have in that person, like a good character, mutual attraction etc. But then what do I do after praying?? Do i approach someone who looks like a good fit?? And even if i think of approaching someone, I've this random thought of looking like a desperate person or being weird,....
Now i don't wanna waste anyones time, because now a days people sometimes don't realize but they spend long period of time with a person and then after years they say k "i don't think k we are compatible" Yaan "kabhi aisa socha nahi" Etc etc,
i just wanna have this thought removed from my head, and lock in with someone and then focus on other stuff in life
Any suggestions or anyone going through this similar phase??