u/Different_Ninja8948

So, first of all i am not a scholar. And i have very little knowledge about my own deen. Like i do have knowledge but not even to make her understand. Idk if y'all get what i mean.

So thing starts from here. Everything was good, she was practicing her religion good. She is hijabi too and never had any difficulty with it. She's originally from uzbek. In August of 2024, she moved to south korea, for stidy purposes.

She had to take a job, and she faced a lot discrimination, just because she wears a hijab. She hasn't been able to get a good job because of it, and struggled really badly because of it.

As a result, as anyone, living in such a judging society, it made an impact on her. I just don't know how to genuinely help her out. I don't want her to be like this.

She wants to take off her hijab, but is scared of disappointing her parents. Today she sent a reel, where she was talking about she wished if she could wear gyaru style outfits. Shorts skirts and all. And said maybe in another life. I said yea definitely in other life, she asked did i meant after life. I said yes, she said she have stopped believing in after life. Idk what to reply. I myself struggle too, but I'm aware as muslims, this is not right. I'm sorry correct me, If I'm wrong, as i said I'm not knowledgeable, but isn't, not believing in afterlife really wrong? She's leaning towards atheism. I have noted in her videos she likes and reposts stuff like that.

I want to genuinely help her out. She is like this, because she is heavily influenced by media. By heavily, i mean heavily. She consumes too much negative islamic content. And i won't lie, i consumed such content, last year, and tbh it has such a bad impact on me, that i do not want to mention here. And ik exactly why she's being like this, because of getting influenced by the media negativity she consumes.

I did tell her to detach from it, but it didn't work. One time we argued too on call on these topics.

She has these questions, why is our body is considered impure, and we have to cover ourselves but a man does not. I don't think, our body is impure. I'm a hijabi too. And we do not cover for men. We cover ourselves only for Allah. And sometimes even i question it, i wish too i could wear skirts, i could wear something as simple as t shirts. I could let my hair be free in breeze. But men and women both have been created different. We are equal in rights, but our responsibilities and tests are different. She says, even are considered zani, because we wear perfumes, if we pluck our eyebrows. I won't lie, i have no answer to this. But i do think why? Why is plucking eyebrows is considered almost as equal to such a major sin? Zina? Really? Just because we plucked our eyebrows? Why, even i have questions, but i don't know what to do. I only know allah is really merciful. He knows best. Idk. Her points are completely valid too. I can see where she's coming from. But i want to help her, i just don't know how. All i know is, as her best friend, i need to help her.

And f ass men, who make us think our bodies are impure. Especially those men coming online and giving dawah. Commenting on every post. Commentings slurs, as if they won't be held accountable for this. Why can't women live in peace. Why tf do they think we do stuff for them?