Getting my hours cut and possibly fired due to being sick?
I’m so annoyed. NM tells me absolutely do not come in if i’m not feeling well, even if it’s just a cold but each time I let her know anyways because I don’t want her to think i’m being lazy and also she’d be able to tell. I work when the kids are sick and they are sick probably once a month and they’ll be home from school for 1-2weeks and i’ll be called in or be asked to work extra hours. I already work pretty long hours 10-12hrs a day and the times are always different. I would say I get 25% of the sicknesses and only ever asked to come in late so I could sleep more unless I have a fever or am throwing up with chills then i’ll take the day off BUT if I have any symptoms (that I got from the kids), she makes me take at least 3 days off which is absurd. I recently had a miscarriage and only took two days off despite feeling like I was dying. I might have taken a day off when I was really nauseas as well and couldn’t stop throwing up while pregnant but worked through hg which was painful. Then, four weeks later I took three days off due to getting an infection and being in severe pain and in the hospital. When I told her I was going to the hospital the night before work and what was going on she was absolutely pissed saying it’s not okay that I NEED to come in and I didn’t know what to say because I was legitimately in the hospital.
Whenever I have to call out she usually will cut my hours for weeks immediately telling me she doesn’t need me this day this day this day. I have rarely called out or taken off for personal reasons and always make my schedule around my work schedule. When I came into work the grandma asked me what was wrong, said I don’t look well blah blah but then said next time I go to the hospital, make sure it’s when I don’t work… i’ve never even taken a day off for a doctors appointment. SO today she texts me while i’m working telling me we’re going to start scheduling week to week and she’s going to hire THREE more people to fill the schedule but i’m only needed one day next week, which is absolutely absurd. I don’t get any benefits, no pto, no gh, nothing and am honestly underpaid for the work i’m required to do. I’m expected to play with all three kids, give them school lessons, do dishes, unload dishwasher, laundry including folding and putting away, making beds, wiping down all counters, vacuuming, watering plants, unpacking school stuff, taking care of their animal and obviously all the regular things too like cooking and cleaning after them and most days it’s nearly impossible to do both cleaning and taking care of kids. They talk to the kids too about things they’re annoyed about with me which is awkward like how I eat too much here when I rarely ever eat anything unless it’s leftover or a snack here and there and then just today nk said my mom is very disappointed with you for doing bad things and I asked what? What bad things? And he said you take off a lot. I said hmmm only when i’m too sick to come in and he said but you’re faking it. Lol. I told him i’ve never done that and have always been honest about everything. I’m a super detailed person and share pretty personal things so I don’t even understand how she would think that.
So in the past two months i’ve taken off 5 days total.
I texted back saying I fully understand it’s been stressful me not being able to come in these past two times but I needed to recover because it was traumatic and then getting an infection with retained tissue definitely wasn’t on the books but I am feeling better day by day so I don’t foresee having to take off anymore for that and it seems all of the stomach bugs have ran their course so I shouldn’t be getting sick.
She just texted again saying i’m the best and the kids love me so much but she needs backup care for when I call out which means splitting up time if i’m okay with it.
I’m not sure what to say because on one hand I am exhausted and annoyed with nm for being passive plus the hours are insane but I also can’t survive on no hours