For some context, my gf and I have known each other since high school and have been dating for years. Recently I moved in with her and her family. She doesn’t make enough to support herself, (she does online art commissions) and honestly neither do I. (I work full time at Walmart.) We want to get her on disability eventually so she can have a more steady income but that’s gonna be a hard fought battle.
So I’ve recently started doing research into my transition and what I want for myself in the future. I was getting very excited about the prospects of starting T and eventually top surgery, so I asked about a realistic timeline for my transition and I have honestly been more than devastated at the answer she gave. She said around four or five years would be best. I asked why the push back, she said her parents don’t like the idea of it because of “safety reasons” We live in the most southern town of Indiana, a very red state. Basically they believe that me transitioning would put not only myself in danger, but everyone in the house as well. So basically I can’t transition until after we get our own place and who knows when that will realistically be. I’m so depressed at this timeline that I feel dizzy and everything feels distant. She wants me to look into ways of “loving myself without transitioning” so that I’m not full on depressed until we move out. Idk I need some advice. I told her I need time to just real from all of that but I know I won’t be able to hide everything from her forever.