So lemme share my story on this...I'm gonna be 18 this year and I've never had any professional haircuts to style my hair. I was kind of excited to do my haircut on my own first so I did...which is a simple long fringe. I cut it long so that if I didn't like it I would just clip it behind.
Guess what...none of them from my family liked it. Not coz it looks ugly (it was pretty good) but coz I did it on my own now without their permission. Well I kind of agree coz they've been controlling my 17 years of life and now I did something on my own for the first time. Especially my brother. Well I would've agreed if my mom opposed it, even she was like "ok at least u didnt chop everything off".
My brother made a huge scene saying that I don't have the right to cut my hair. Like does he even hear himself...it's my hair...and I don't have the right to cut my own hair now??!! And my mom...she joined him...I don't get her at all...she always plays this double game where she seems to be supporting me but then when my brother comes in the whole scene changes as if I'm all alone. She always supports him too. I don't even consider my dad in this coz he never gave shit anyway.
My thought is that I'm already gonna be 18 and I can have my own rights. I finished school too. I genuinely wanted to surprise them with the very simple haircut but it turned out like this. I was very excited too.
Even if things can't be changed I feel very hurt by the words my brother and mom told me. Words that come from family hurts more than anything. It makes me feel insecure and now I was not the confident girl who kept the hair out and slicked my hair back so that no one would know I cut my hair.
And I don't think my brother will talk to me for a while. He's in another country for his higher education and we video call him every night. Now I don't think he will even talk to me.
Every time I feel like I am disappointing my family and now this thing adds to it too.
Pls share your opinions on this guys 😔