(Cross-Post)
Indian. 34F. I moved to LA from upstate NY last summer with my husband for my job.
After settling and getting into the rhythm of the city, we were surprised to feel a certain lack of warmth in the people we tried to hang out with here. Almost like everyone is nice and friendly but distanced enough to prevent any deeper friendships.
We had a small but close group of friends back in NY after living there for 4 years and while I understand it takes time, we are almost nearing a year here and it's hard not to feel lonely and homesick especially when you also haven't been back home in a while (immigration chaos).
We are DINKS and step out every Saturday to visit places around the city. We have a few people to hangout with but I dread not having a village.
While hanging out with Indians is easy because of shared upbringing/experiences and language, we try to branch out too but haven't had much success yet. I have always loved hosting ppl but it gets tiring when you are the only one reaching out all the time.
How is everyone trying to foster friendships as a busy working adult in a city like LA where traffic and costs seem to play a role in connections?