Grandma wants me to have her house (I currently live there) but my mom who is power of attorney doesnt agree.
My grandma has expressed multiple times that she wants the house I currently live in (she owns it still) to be gifted/transfered to me. I dont have property that I own so it would be my first house.
The problem is my mom, who is her power attorney, doesn't want it to go to me, technically in my grandma's will it goes to my mom first, then me.
My grandma made it clear she wants it to go directly to me and just skip my mom, my mom owns a home already.
My grandma is still able to make decisions and is cognizant enough, she is in a long term care home though.
What is the legal proccess to get this sorted out? Would I have to get her to rewrite her will?
My mom has ownership over her bank accounts and my grandma isnt very mobile.
My mom is very resistant to respecting my grandma's wishes and I can see her fighting this decision. Any advice would be great. Should record my conversations with my grandma and my mom just in case?
My mom already lied about having conversations with my grandma saying SHE should be put on the deed and that my grandma just forgot about the convo, which I know its a lie. I told her I want us both there to clear up the confusion. If that was indeed the case.
Tldr: grandma wants me to have the house I live in, mom who is power of attorney doesnt want me to have it.
UPDATE: thank you to everyone who has given advice, I will see if she is willing to redo her will. but tbh I will likely have to abandon the house, my grandma thought that the house in her will, was going to me, but im 100% sure its says my mom. my mom is not on the house in any way. my grandma still owns it outright. my grandma had a stroke, and while she is capable on some things shes not in others, idk if she would pass an assessment.
That being said, my grandma would be highly disspointed if I didnt get the house, as I had previously mentioned buying a place else where in the town where her house is and she was very upset by that becuase she wanted me to live at her house.
some context if you care:
my mom has no reason to want this house (she lives in the city and owns her own her own home this place is 1.5 hrs out of town. it sat empty for whole year and she didnt do anything with it) she is not likely to sell the place as its basically a legacy home, been in the family for generations, but she also doesnt want to live there, nor does she want to go and take care of it. my mom is abusive and manipulative and controlling. she complains about my grandma and having take care of her, but yet when I say I can help or try to do anything to help she doesnt let me. my mom will likely dangle this house as a way to control me, I doubt she will let me actually have it, if it goes to her first. until she dies and then it goes to me. the more I think about it, it might be better to just let it go and buy a different property.