I’m working in an office where we have a small friend group (5–6 people). I’m a few years older than the rest. There are 2 guys (including me) and the rest are girls.
One of the guys in the group really likes one of the girls. He’s a genuinely nice guy, and earlier they used to talk a lot. We’d all joke about it sometimes. But he got pretty attached, even admitted he gets jealous when she talks to me.
Now the girl has clearly understood that he likes her and she has told him (directly and indirectly) that she’s not interested and there’s no future. Her family is also pushing her for marriage this year.
The issue is: the guy is not taking it well at all. He gets very emotional, has even cried a few times and created awkward scenes in public. It’s honestly uncomfortable to watch.
Recently, the girl has started acting closer to me on purpose (her words, not mine) so that the other guy backs off. Like talking to me more, being physically a bit more comfortable (like resting her head on my shoulder etc).
I won’t lie, I kind of like her too. But I’m not in a place career-wise or mentally to get into something serious right now, especially something that could lead to marriage.
So now I’m stuck:
* I don’t want to hurt the other guy or make things worse
* I don’t want to be used as a “tool” to push him away
* But I also can’t deny I enjoy the attention and have a soft corner for her
Not sure how to handle this without messing up the group or someone getting hurt more than they already are.
What would you do in my place?