I was in a serious relationship for three years. If you ask me, he treated me so well that neither my family nor anyone else ever could. I never went to sleep with a heavy heart because of him. He was my angel. He was five years older than me.
Things ended with a lot of pain for both of us because we couldn’t imagine a life without each other. During those three years, we knew we wouldn’t end up together for many reasons. He was also under pressure from his family to get married, but we still couldn’t bring ourselves to break up. We continued living together in a live-in.
The rebound- One time, my ex went to his hometown. I met a guy in ista who seemed like an ideal person, well-behaved, a doctor, from my own community, and very charming. We connected quickly and started talking. He showed genuine interest in me, and I let myself go with the flow because at that time i was always thinking to end the relationship with my ex, I didn’t understand what a rebound was or that relationships don’t work that way after something serious.
I told my ex everything. He was hurt, but he thought at least I wouldn’t be alone. Slowly, I started talking everyday to this new guy and eventually broke up with my ex. He left the city heartbroken, and I was completely broken too.
In the beginning, it felt comforting and made me happy because it distracted me from my past. I gave all my focus to it, trying to find happiness in this new person. But slowly, I started comparing him to my ex and feelings irritated when he didn’t meet my expectations. I couldn’t even explain it to him properly, because the truth was I was already heartbroken and expecting him to give me a kind of love that wasn’t fair to ask for.
Even though he was a really good person and had everything I thought I wanted, I couldn’t love him fully because I hadn’t healed. After 5 months i realised I was never in love and still carried the Grieve from my past relationship, I walked away, he chased not knowing what happened to me. I also realise it wasn’t fair to him or to me. There was no mistake of him and i admit that. I felt bad for the guy but i don't have a little love for him. The person was never wrong, he was such a good guy but my time was.
Conclusion: Healing from your past is necessary before starting something new, otherwise you carry that pain forward and it turns into an unhealthy relationship. Please never get into rebound if you came out from a serious relationship.