u/Dear-Ad-3614

I have to do small independent projects for income. Most of the work I get is posted at night for the last year or so. My husband and all of my immediate family know I have dysautonomia and multiple autoimmune diseases, and that I might start waking up at around 10am but I haven't had a chance to pee, drink some water, nor has my vision cleared until about 11. Yet 3-4 times a week my phone is ringing at 10. I used to answer, I have stopped. I really hope there isn't an emergency someday. But every time I answered, to say the question or topic wasn't important is putting it mildly.

My husband complains about me working at night, and then he or someone else will say something like maybe it's time to get a real job during the day - ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME? Why? So, I can work a few days maybe a week and then crash so hard I end up not being able to get out of bed or end up in the ER. What would be the point?

I can't commit to plans like eating out, or holidays because I don't know if I will even be up for getting out of bed, yet they get mad every time. I don't need to be there.

Yes, it is nice outside, but the barometer just spiked or dropped, and I don't get better the moment it stabilizes.

Yes, sometimes I eat food that I couldn't before. If other people think it's problematic to not know what I shouldn't or should eat try never knowing what you might react to because the reactions cycle in severity. For instance, sometimes wheat products are easier to digest when my GP is flaring than fruits and veggies (If I can even put anything in my stomach), but when I'm not in a GP flare sticking to fruits in veggies means I am less likely to have other flares. It's a vicious cycle. It's not that I'm ever okay it just sometimes I'm a lot worse.

It's like dragging giant ball and chain around all day every day and then someone asking me why I don't just take it off.

Sometimes people post articles in the sub I mod - fine if they are on topic and don't violate the spirt of the sub. We usually leave them but lately we have been getting articles posted on our sub by the person who wrote them. Sure, they are on topic and people seem to be engaged sometimes users report them, but not many.

- I don't like discouraging conversation, but the last one, while content was on topic and it was more than just a link it felt more like they were just digging for clicks back to their full article. I'm curious what other mods think of this? How strict are you? It's just an article nothing to download, but we aren't a click farm either. Do these come off as just spam advertisement to anyone else? Is it worth it to block or to keep them. We get just under 2 million views per week.

It won't pick up in photos - but the skin right on my lip line mostly upper but some bottom too is discolored or almost freckled maybe better described of the dark mark an old, healed pimple might leave, on top of a line of missing color on my bottom lip (looks like lip liner wore off). I use peptides and retinol at night, vitamin c and SPF during the day, and SPF ChapStick or tint when out in the sun. Any suggestions?

I have multiple washable rugs. I have used the same enzyme cleaner on all but one. I needed to wash that one for the first time, sprayed a spot with my normal enzyme cleaner and it made the dyes bleed. I tried blotting with cold water to dilute and remove as much of the cleaner that I could (didn't help) and right now I am running it through my washing machine with just a deep cold-water rinse to see how much comes out. Any suggestions on what to do with the likely purple blob on my mostly light blue area rug?

Update - For anyone who might come across this.

I used Ecos Pet Enzyme cleaner - never had anything like this in the years I have been using the product.

The washable rug brand is Wyatt and Ash. The background is white with blue, gold and very little purple floral

It bled so much from just a few sprays it created about a 6 x 6 is purple splotch.

I blotted and rinsed with cold water immediately.

I put in my washer on deep water rinse cycle

When I took it out most of the spot was gone.

I was able to get the rest of it out with my handheld spot upholstery cleaner, but it did take a lot of rinse water sprays.