u/Deadr0b0t

Hi! First time poster on this sub. We just received our lease agreement to sign for an apartment with a move in date for next friday (May 15th). We are in Virginia in the US. If it helps, we applied for a WDU apartment and got accepted. However, there are a few issues with the contract that I have questions about. I'm worried if I ask too many questions or point out too many mistakes they'll rescind the offer and we may lose the apartment.

The property has mostly good reviews and is managed by Greystar. We were told that the monthly base rent would be $2732, however on the agreement it says base rent without fees is $2816 and isn't clear if its including parking or anything like that. There's a list of fees on another website, but it doesn't explicitly say if that is included in the base rent or not.

There is also a weird clause in an addendum which I think says we are prohibited from denying entry to prospective buyers and tenants? Which I believe is something illegal to require under VA law (72 hour notice must be provided).

Also they included pet charges despite my pets being ESAs and me providing the requested/required documentation. I want to ask that they put in writing I do not owe these fees due to my pets being ESAs. I have provided an updated letter from my psychiatrist and haven't had any issues getting them approved in the past.

We are really close to the move in/move out date and it would be awful if they rescinded the offer. Is it okay to request changes to the contract or at the very least ask questions?

Thank you for any advice provided!

Edit: It is subsidized under Fairfax County's WDU program, so they may have to adhere to certain rules regarding contracts. If no one here knows I'll probably try to contact the county about it. It takes them a few days to respond though so I thought I'd take a shot here in case anyone knows.

Edit2: I was looking over the lease again and they have a bunch of stuff about how we shouldn't expect our packages to be secure? Yet we have to pay an extra monthly fee to have them stored in a locker. Also they are allowed to reject packages if they are over 25 lbs, which doesn't seem like a lot??

R / disability removed this for some reason so I'm posting it here

I'm just so tired. I thought by now I'd have tougher skin, but I feel just like how I did when I first started using a chair. I ended up crying after simply going to the grocery store with my partner. They have scooters with baskets so I use them instead of my chair. Well Wegmans scooters have been awful lately, the battery runs out within 10 minutes and my partner has to go get me another scooter.

This time, I tried moving out of the way so people could still access what I was sitting near, and one lady came by with her kids and just glared at the scooter. I apologized and tried to explain what happened, but she completely ignored me, like I was an object not a person. Her kids saw how she treated me.

Then in another aisle, a girl with crutches was passing by so I backed up to let her go first since I prioritize disabled people who aren't sitting down. She then said that I could go, the beeping was triggering her PTSD and laughed, she was trying to be nice about it and told me to have a good day, but my anxiety just got worse. I also have PTSD, I get that you can't control your triggers, but I literally can't help that the scooter beeps when I back up. It's a safety feature.

It really bothered me because I have my own mobility scooter and I don't use it as much as I should because I'm anxious about the beeping when I need to back up. It's loud and I've noticed people get startled by it in public. It has to be loud because people may be listening to music and not paying attention. I should be using the scooter more since my illness affects my arms, but it makes me too anxious. People seem to treat me differently when I'm in the scooter vs the chair.

When I'm in my chair, some people do judge but they are more sympathetic you know? In my scooter though? People look at me like a fatass, like I'm just being lazy. It doesn't help that the store scooters are so slow especially on low battery. My personal one can go pretty fast at least.

My blood sugar was getting low at the register so I grabbed a candy bar, scanned it, and then started eating it. I felt so embarrassed eating it while my partner scanned our items. I'm not exactly skinny, and there's a stereotype about younger people who use store scooters. It makes me feel anxious using my own personal scooter.

My partner asked me what was wrong when we got in the car, he can sense when something is bothering me. I burst into tears. I'm tired of being treated like an object, like I'm subhuman. He's been pushing me to go outside more on my scooter for my mental health, as that's why we got it. I confessed why I wasn't using it and he got angry, not at me but at the people who judge me and the people in the store. I miss being invisible, just a regular person. Not worrying about people judging me for what I put in my cart or if I stay in one place too long.

I like shopping at night, near closing time, because there are less people. I can take my time. The people who are there are usually nicer and not as judgemental. Unfortunately a lot of stuff is out of stock at that point, and sometimes our schedule just doesn't allow us to go out that late.

I currently live in a rich area, with a lot of judgemental snobs. I've noticed I get treated better when I'm in lower income areas. I've never really felt at home in this area and it's getting worse as more luxury amenities and properties are built. People look at me like I don't belong. I live in a subsidized apartment in a building that also has super expensive apartments on the upper floors. I feel afraid to use the amenities due to people judging me. We are moving to a more blue collar area and I'm hoping I'll feel more at home there at least.

Sorry for the long rant, tdlr I feel people judge me for being in a mobility scooter and it's like every time I go out in public I end up getting so stressed out I either have a panic attack, cry, and/or flare up afterwards.