This is a serious question. I’ve seen in pop media and on social media like Reddit etc where men are very angry at not just their partner but the person whom they had the affair with.
I ask because it’s never even been in my consideration to actually be upset with the guy?
He’s not in the relationship. He’s not made in promise or commitment, might not even be aware of the relationship she was in? Even if he was aware, and because I’ve been there, it never crossed my mind to be angry at the partner.
I guess what I’m asking another way, or maybe in addition to the first question, people who have acted on the feeling or have understood the motivation for violence in those scenarios, was the reaction out of general anger towards the affair partner because you felt they disrespected “you” so that needed to be balanced? Even if they didn’t know? Like there is a time and place to physically confront isssues. Is that one for you?
I’ve been cheated on when I was younger and it was devastating. I felt a lot of anger and resentment, embarrassment but all towards my girlfriend or myself.
Would you inherently want to physically confront an affair partner or would it be contingent on some other level of relationship with you?