Am i wrong?
A little background about our life: my mother and I came to the Netherlands from Somalia with the help of my aunt from my father’s side of the family. She paid for the whole process and helped us get to Europe.
Now, 15 years later, my uncle (also from my father’s side) wants to bring his daughter from Somalia to the same country where we live. The whole process costs around €15,000. My mother wants to help because she feels like she should give back for the help we once received.
The problem is that my father’s side of the family is actually fairly wealthy. They’re not extremely rich, but they live in villas in Somalia and Dubai. Still, my grandmother is asking my mother to pay €6,000 of the €15,000. I think that’s a very high amount, especially because there are other family members with much more money than us.
My mother says she will give €5,000, but she doesn’t even have that kind of money. She constantly complains that I don’t have savings, yet she also wants to borrow money from me to help bring them here. That really irritated me. Every time I try to talk to her about it, she shuts down completely.
I asked her, “What if I didn’t have the money?” and after that she got very angry with me.
So now I’m wondering… am I wrong for feeling this way?