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So my ex (5 years together, recently broken up) just got together with my best friend.

I was in such a nice place before I heard about this - there were barely any thoughts so I just felt happy and fully present, now I keep getting pulled out of that space by thoughts of blaming, and the emotions that go with it, It's really difficult to be in.

But I also enjoy the present moment in-between the waves.

It's like an internal conflict between wanting to feel happy, and rehearsing fictitious conversations or interpretations in my head. I'm not sure how to resolve it.

I don't really have any ill feelings towards my friend, it's mostly directed at my ex. We decided to try and stay friends when we broke up, so I could still stay with the friend group we have. But like, getting together with him this fast just feels really disrespectful and hurtful.

I'm not looking to resolve it in the physical world, but just in my internal state of being.

Does the sage become angry, annoyed, sad, fearful? I notice after thoughts have quieted, that some situations still cause great emotional disturbance, which colors my reality for a while - even without thought.

Right now I'm just doing somatic trauma release techniques with them - which means letting them express themselves however they want (in private), then letting them pass. It's quite a time consuming and energetically taxing approach. But is this a good approach or is there something else I can be doing?