u/Cultural-Client-2911

Me and this guy have been talking since November 2025. We met through an app where you can find people your age in your area that are looking for new friends. We hit it off pretty quickly and texted a lot and when we finally hung out, things went really well. ever since then we’ve been hanging out 1 to 2 times a week either where I will go stay the night at his house or he’ll come stay the night at mine. I really do like him and can see a future with him, his friends and family all really like me and have even called me His girlfriend on multiple occasions we have had a couple separate conversations regarding what exactly our relationship is and what the end goal is that we want, we both have had some tough past relationships and are still working through our own insecurities and our readiness to take on a serious relationship. When we talked about what we want, he explained that the distance between us does cause him to be hesitant because he would want me all the time, for context We live about an hour and a half from each other. Another thing that holds him back is the fact that I have some debt and I don’t make the most money at the moment in his last relationship his girlfriend at the time took advantage of his financials and had him pay for multiple bills, including rent. I agreed that these things definitely would be tough to juggle in a relationship, but I am working towards a solution for all of my issues for example, I’m setting up payment plans and getting new jobs to stabilize myself and my finances, one of my biggest concerns due to past situations is that I’m going to be waiting and doing all of these things and he will no longer want to be in a serious relationship. ( not that I’m doing these things for him,I am making these changes to better myself)Things have really progressed and I’ve noticed him open himself up more and more to me, but he does still seem hesitant to give affection in public and also calls me pal or buddy when we’re together I really want to be able to call him my boyfriend and show him that I am ready for this commitment and I’m willing to help him in any way that he needs, I know labels aren’t that big of a deal but the stage we’re in is kinda awkward and I’m not sure where to go from here