I don't want to be celibate
I get aroused, my bladder swells, and my urethra hurts. I have an orgasm, and I'm in hell.
I can't have penetration. It's impossible; it won't go in. It hurts, and for some reason, I also have pain at the entrance of my vagina (with redness).
No urologist is helpful (they just tell me it's cystitis or yeah, those symptoms are not normal and then they do nothing about it)), and no gynecologist is helpful (they just say, "Oh yes, it's red, and it shouldn't be").
If I do anything sexual, even the slightest thing, I have horrible symptoms for days on end.