My girlfriend’s family engages with antisemitic content
UK. My dad is Jewish, my mum isn't religious but was raised in Jewish values and is very pro-Israel. So while I'm not religious myself, being Jewish is core to who I am, it's not something I picked up or could put down.
My girlfriend isn't Jewish. I've been increasingly uncomfortable with some of her family's politics. They call themselves pro-Palestine, which is fine (it’s not but for her sake I tolerate their lack of education and social conformity), I can disagree with people on that. But some of what they engage with online isn't political criticism. It's content saying Jews deserve to die, that Oct 7 was warranted, etc. That's not politics, that's antisemitism.
Today I shared the Nova festival exhibition on my Instagram story. For anyone unfamiliar, it's a memorial for the 400+ young people murdered at a music festival in Israel on Oct 7 2023, and it's just opened in London. I didn't caption it politically, it was a memorial. One of her family members saw it and blocked me.
I sent my girlfriend a careful, calm message. I said this matters to me because being Jewish isn't a political view I hold, it's who I am. I made the distinction between being ‘pro-palestine’ and being antisemitic (which is what I've actually seen from her family). I told her I wasn't asking her to change them, just to see it for what it is and acknowledge it with me. She nicely said I can’t do anything about how part of her family think or what they believe and she just wants people to get on.
This hurt quite a lot.
Am I overreacting, or is this a real red flag?
Update - thank you to everyone responding, it means a lot to me. Under halacha I’m not Jewish so I struggle with my identity. I lost many ‘friends’ after October 7th as I grew up in a rural non Jewish area.