I have this male friend who I’ve been with since my uni days. After uni, life started and we all went different ways. I started off at corporate then nikaingia biashara later but when I was busy figuring out my life, he seemed like he had it all worked out. He got a well paying job almost immediately after we graduated.
So this guy borrowed some money from me once and since this is someone I’ve know for a while, I gave it to him and didn’t ever mention getting it back. He returned it to me after he was paid which was like a week later. It still baffled me how this guy could borrow from me and yet back then I was just surviving on my small salary.
Unbeknownst to me, I had opened a door that should never be opened. He would borrow and pay back when he said he would so I would always be willing to lend him the money. Slowly by slowly he would borrow larger amounts and I would still lend it because I knew he would always pay it back.
The last time, which was around December last year, he borrowed a relatively large amount and I happened to find myself in a financial crisis at the time. I remembered the money I had lent out so for the first time in around 3 years since he started borrowing, I asked for my money back. He said he would pay it back and that there was just some delay with their salaries or whatever. A few days go by, this guy is mteja…. I tried calling, sending messages, still nothing.
So I gave up on him and decided to hustle to get the money in other ways, I succeeded and considered the money he borrowed gone. A month later he calls to tell me something had happened to his phone but I was very blunt with him, told him I didn’t want to hear anything, I just wanted my money back. He paid it back a week later but the usual ‘ nimekutumia, thanks’ was not there. It’s like it was a favour he was doing me.
Kidogo kidogo I see I’m unfollowed on ig, I wonder Kwani, ni yeye alikosewa ama ni Mimi? Months go by in silence then out of nowhere I get a call today. Of course the friendship is already gone at this point so I wasn’t entertaining any small talk about life or whatever so he gets to point and asks me for money…again. The audacity of that human being… mind you I have never once borrowed even a shilling from him, do some people have no shame?