My husband wants me home with our toddler
I’m shocked by my husbands reaction to our NICU baby. He truly is the definition of amazing husband and father to our toddler but his reaction to our NICU baby and lack of support postpartum has been shocking to me and I’m not sure how to vocalize how I am feeling. I was hospitalized at 22 weeks with complete placenta previa after multiple bleeds and previous hospital stays. He had to take on the role of both mom and dad since that point for our toddler who just turned two 3 weeks ago. At 27 and 6 I had placenta abruption and an emergency c section; we are now 10 days postpartum. I have not felt supported in my postpartum recovery, 2 days post discharge I was guilted in to a family dinner at a restaurant for my mother in law’s birthday instead of resting, I stated driving 1 week post c section to get myself back and forth to the NICU as there was no plan in place to get me there, not once since birth has my husband asked how I am feeling, or if I needed anything, but the biggest thing has been the guilt he has put on me when I am at the NICU. Yesterday he told me my other son needs his mom home after I was only there for a few hours and today when I mentioned the social worker invited me to a parent advisory meeting to meet other NICU parents that was this evening he told me don’t they know you have a family at home. These comments feel so left field for him and I feel like he’s angry that I was gone for so long and because of that he has not bonded with our baby. He has not gone to the hospital to see him in 5 days and I couldn’t imagine not being there everyday. I’m not confrontational and our anniversary is tomorrow so I want to approach all of this lightly. I am too mentally and physically exhausted to fight