u/Crazy_Initiative2815

I am the only offshore creative working for an Australian brand under a Brazilian immigrant boss. She has been working for the company for 1 year now. I have noticed some unusual things with how she runs the team.

- Is bubbly and upbeat toward her white counterparts, but cold and non chalant towards me.

Eg:

Me: Hi let me know if I got this right?

Her: no its wrong

White Counterparts: sends an update

Her: Oh that's so great to hear! I'm so happy for you 🫶🏻🫶🏻

- Does not want me to keep track of how many outputs I've done so far. Says that she "doesn't look at the numbers, what matters is if I tell you to give it to me tomorrow and you do it"

- Declined when I proposed a task tracker, we have no system to monitor tasks.

- Would use all caps on me

- Says that it's too much work if I send her a M.O.M and ask her to approve it to avoid miscommunication. Prefers to hop on a call with me to verbally tell me.

- Will put crucial instructions on a folder name, but did not tell me about it when she discussed said folder on a call.

-Told me to "figure it out" when I asked for help on something.

I'm hoping that all of these are just due to her not having English as her native language. I can't help but look at her communication style towards me and compare it to how their white employees talk to me. They are all warm yet straightforward but the way she talks to me is the complete opposite.

I am the only offshore creative working for an Australian brand under a Brazilian immigrant boss. She has been working for the company for 1 year now. I have noticed some unusual things with how she runs the team.

- Is bubbly and upbeat toward her white counterparts, but cold and non chalant towards me.

Eg:

Me: Hi let me know if I got this right?

Her: no its wrong

White Counterparts: sends an update

Her: Oh that's so great to hear! I'm so happy for you 🫶🏻🫶🏻

-Does not want me to keep track of how many outputs I've done so far. Says that she "doesn't look at the numbers, what matters is if I tell you to give it to me tomorrow and you do it"

-Declined when I proposed a task tracker, we have no system to monitor tasks.

- Would use all caps on me

-Says that it's too much work if I send her a M.O.M and ask her to approve it to avoid miscommunication. Prefers to hop on a call with me to verbally tell me.

-Will put crucial instructions on a folder name, but did not tell me about it when she discussed said folder on a call.

-Told me to "figure it out" when I asked for help on something.

I'm hoping that all of these are just due to her not having English as her native language. I can't help but look at her communication style towards me and compare it to how their white employees talk to me. They are all warm yet straightforward but the way she talks to me is the complete opposite.

I am the only offshore creative working for an Australian brand under a Brazilian immigrant boss. She has been working for the company for 1 year now. I have noticed some unusual things with how she runs the team.

- Is bubbly and upbeat toward her white counterparts, but cold and non chalant towards me.

Eg:

Me: Hi let me know if I got this right?

Her: no its wrong

White Counterparts: sends an update

Her: Oh that's so great to hear! I'm so happy for you 🫶🏻🫶🏻

- Does not want me to keep track of how many outputs I've done so far. Says that she "doesn't look at the numbers, what matters is if I tell you to give it to me tomorrow and you do it"

- Declined when I proposed a task tracker, we have no system to monitor tasks.

- Would use all caps on me

- Says that it's too much work if I send her a M.O.M and ask her to approve it to avoid miscommunication. Prefers to hop on a call with me to verbally tell me.

- Will put crucial instructions on a folder name, but did not tell me about it when she discussed said folder on a call.

-Told me to "figure it out" when I asked for help on something.

I'm hoping that all of these are just due to her not having English as her native language. I can't help but look at her communication style towards me and compare it to how their white employees talk to me. They are all warm yet straightforward but the way she talks to me is the complete opposite.

A while back I decided to, for the first time, go out for drinks by myself. I usually go out to drink with my friends and I was curious to see how I'd fare just by myself. This decision is already a big leap for me as I am very wary of strangers on a daily basis.

I chose a cozy bar located in an area I pass by every day, so I knew how to get around. At the bar counter, I was sat next to an older man that chatted me up. It was all very wholesome and I did not get weird vibes at all. He offered to give his phone number in case I wanted a drinking buddy, since he was a regular at the bar.

As the night ends, I pick out my card ready to pay for my tab. But I suddenly remembered that the man was a regular - and most probably in good terms with the bartender. I made the quick decision to just pay in cash instead, because I didn't know if the receipt would show my name or anything identifying that the bartender could pass on to the man. He was still a stranger after all.

Overall, I had fun and would do it again. I told the entire thing to my bestfriend and she went on a tangent about how I'm too paranoid to the point that I am unable to enjoy myself. She said that should anything happen to me, I could just report it after - and that alone could deter a man from doing something dangerous.

It's hard to hear that from my bestfriend, especially that she knew how it takes time for me to gather courage to do something by myself. The small act of just paying in cash gave me my peace of mind and helped me look back to that experience in a positive light.